A Happy Family Is Not a Lottery

When I became a teenager, I dreamed very much of a big win. At that time, games of "Sportloto, 5 out of 36" were practiced, where the main prize was 10 thousand rubles with an average salary of 150 rubles, at an exchange rate of 60 kopecks per dollar and a bread price of 14 kopecks per loaf. I dreamed of quick riches and constantly planned how I would spend this money. But the problem was that I spent my savings without winning anything. My gambler friends were smarter than me and made up whole schemes for placing crosses, by which they were guaranteed to win. But they spent even more money on buying lottery tickets.

At some point in time, it became clear to me that the probability of winning was very small, and the probability of becoming destitute was quite high, so I stopped playing.

The older I got, the larger the main prizes in the lottery became, and there were always those who got them. But I no longer fell for such bait and never spent my money on such things.

Having become a believer, I understood that lottery games are Satan's territory, on which he invites people to sign his documents, giving him the right to keep the souls of subscribers in gambling addiction, deciding who to give the winnings to and who to constantly ruin. If a person cannot write, they are asked to draw a cross instead of a signature, and this is also considered their written consent.

I live in a world that consists of families. As I grew up, thoughts about creating my own family began to come to me. I was ready to get married even in kindergarten, and in my school years I saw a potential wife in every girl I liked, but I was very shy, so I remained lonely for a long time. As a teenager, I already began to seriously think about my family, not even understanding what it was, having in my home the example of quarreling parents. From films I understood that my future wife should be pretty and smile beautifully at me. And later films appeared that taught me that you can avoid marriage and live with whomever you want, without any obligations.

But I still got married. And I met my future wife at the railway station in Zagreb. She didn't smile at me at all and looked very tired. I didn't even imagine that this was the person with whom I would spend the rest of my life.

Observing how families are created, I have not seen a single sad wedding. I still enjoy looking at newlyweds and rejoicing in their happiness. But I noticed that over time this happiness evaporates somewhere, and people plunge into the daily routine of problems and worries, and many men and women become nervous and militant about anything. You rarely see happy families. At best, they will show you a beautiful facade, although in their hearts people carry bitter disappointment.

When my daughter was growing up, she came to the conclusion that she would never get married. To my question "Why?" she answered that she didn't want to be the twentieth sexual partner. And this was the opinion of a schoolgirl.

It seems that when choosing a family for themselves, people buy a lucky ticket in life, without even thinking about the probability of winning. But unlike chance, happiness has its own laws, under which it necessarily appears where these laws are studied, practiced and followed.

Happiness is not a blue bird of luck, which is very difficult to catch, and then it constantly tries to fly out of the cage. Happiness is more like a puppy that, having accepted you as its owner, remains faithful to you for the rest of its life, not intending to leave you.

Family happiness is not sold at a kiosk and does not come by chance. It must be studied and built, understanding what you are dealing with and how it works.

Once I have learned the language of the country to which I moved to live, I will never forget it if I constantly communicate in it. It will become my way of thinking. Happiness is worth studying, it should be spoken in, it should be thought in. It must become part of me. Then I will be able to distinguish familiar speech in the noise of different voices and gravitate toward those whom I understand and who do not mind communicating with me. If the vocabulary of my interlocutor is limited to standard phrases for making acquaintances, then at some point we come to a language barrier that we can no longer overcome together, and parting becomes necessary or very desirable. You don't really want to waste time on a foreigner, because life passes, and you have no one to talk to.

The Lord gives us absolute freedom in choosing our other half. Initially, He conceived and arranged us so that we would seek each other, and having found each other, would unite in families and be in union for the rest of our lives, eternal life. But sin separated us from the Creator and decided to separate us from each other. When a family collapses, there are no winners in it, everyone suffers. A family is not a union for a couple of years while everything is good, but an enterprise for life. Divorce is a consequence of sin that breaks hearts and lives, and love and happiness is keeping the law. There is no chance in love, and happiness does not just come. Even if I meet the happiest person and decide to create my own happiness on someone else's happiness, I risk building nothing and destroying what another has built.

When I am erecting the walls of a new house, I sometimes think about how this structure would look if a life companion followed me with a sledgehammer and destroyed everything that I persistently create? And if the two of us built only to then break it down together, what would our future home look like? I know very many people who live in dilapidated huts and don't even imagine that you can live differently. And happiness is always nearby. Like a homeless puppy, it tries to get under my feet to find comfort in my care for it, so that later it will be devoted to me all my life.

In the lottery there are lucky ones who appear after each drawing. They love to advertise them, wanting to show how happy they are now because they made a wise decision and bought a lottery ticket. Now they are rich and have everything. And foolish viewers watch this and believe that they will be next. Satan rejoices.

I also found lucky ones in family happiness who, having met each other, went, registered, and live their whole lives happily "soul to soul." I do not deny such coincidences. Their joyful union is visible to the whole world. But to be foolish, thinking that I will also be lucky with a probability of one in a billion, I don't really want.

The laws of happy family life are such that if you learn them and follow them, the probability of failure is minimized, and happiness is guaranteed. I risk remaining lonely without ever meeting such a happy person studying the laws of family happiness, but this will not bring me unhappiness.

Happy people, like flower nectar, attract everyone. And there is a danger that an undesirable spirit will be attracted, but love knows how to recognize this and separate flies from bees, feeding all who wish, but attaching itself to its own kind.

Learning happiness is not difficult, but it is necessary to invest your precious time in it and choose a pure source.

1. Please read: Rom. 5:4-5; Ps. 101:7-8; Prov. 8:16-21,35-36; 21:16; 28:19; 31:30; Eccl. 4:9-12; 9:11; Gen. 6:2; Amos 3:3,7; Matt. 7:24-27; John 17:26; 1 Cor. 6:14; Gal. 5:13 in light of this topic.

2. What did you understand from this topic?

3. What do you think is the percentage of luck in probability theory when choosing a life partner?

4. Are all beautiful and attractive people kind and wise people capable of blessing and adorning your life? Justify your answer.

5. Will I have any chances of creating a happy family if I first study the principles of happy family life and seek wisdom from God in this matter?

6. How important is it to have a happy marriage? Maybe it's enough not to be alone and to have children at home?

7. What do you think happens in the hearts of spouses when they decide to build family happiness and do everything possible for this?

8. What advantage does a happy family have over a militant family union?

9. Is a happy union an accident?

10. Is it possible to predict the development of relationships between people wishing to enter into marriage? If yes, by what criteria can their future fate be determined?

11. Does happiness have a pattern?

12. What should I do if my marriage turned out to be unsuccessful? Who should be blamed, and how should I live on?

13. Do you think that knowledge about love, friendship and happiness presented in our School will help build something beautiful and restore what has been destroyed?

14. Where does happiness begin?

15. Do you want to be a happy spouse? If yes, what is necessary to do for this?