Rose-Colored Glasses

I often heard the expression "put on rose-colored glasses" and did not understand why specifically rose-colored. Once rose-tinted glasses fell into my hands, and I decided to look at the world with different eyes. Everything appeared to my gaze in an unreal form. Although the outlines of objects did not change, their color significantly paled and became unnatural. In reality, all things look much more beautiful.

If it is said about someone that he looks at the world through rose-colored glasses, this means that the person has lost the reality of life and wants to see everything through the eyes of absolute exaggeration of positive factors, while not paying attention to real negativity. We do not call for seeking out negative sides in people, but if they exist and are very noticeable, then they should also be taken into account.

The absence of an objective assessment of existing reality is not a wise approach to life. Our world is full of all kinds of surprises and traps, and one should pay attention to surrounding dangers and warnings, even if I am under the best protection. This rule applies to all spheres of life and, of course, extends to the area of interpersonal relationships, because the human heart is deceitful and extremely corrupted.

Fraudsters are those people who try under the guise of a good deed to gain the trust of naive people in order to take possession of their bodies, money, or property. As a result of such deception, people's hearts harden toward any good deed, and they stop trusting anyone.

Rose-colored glasses are not a body part from which it is impossible to get rid, but a feature of my consciousness that distorts the true essence of things.

About love it is written that it covers all things and believes all things, and if I do not understand what love is, then I risk becoming another victim of fraudsters, justifying my mistake by the fact that I trusted unfamiliar people, relying on their word and not trying to verify what was offered to me.

In the relationship of two people in love with each other there is no hidden meaning of deliberate deception, but there is a danger that they, under the influence of sensual experiences or prospective changes in their lives, will put on rose-colored glasses and begin to see the goal of their friendship, not paying attention to what the person represents. Tender words, affectionate touches, tactful courtesy, unconditional kindness, emanating from an unsanctified heart, enchant the consciousness of the friendship partner, and he ceases to see the bad that also manifests itself in the friend's behavior.

Love sees everything. It is impossible to hide from it the true state of the heart. But with all this, it does not try to use negative knowledge to reject a person or cause him harm. Love consciously seeks good qualities of the soul and clings to them, wanting to engage in their research and development, perfectly understanding what the person represents as a whole.

When lonely people, getting acquainted with such lonely representatives of the opposite sex, set as a goal the creation of a family, thinking that they risk missing their chance and lifelong vegetating in loneliness, then, having such a goal, it is very difficult to understand the objectivity of the situation and be quite sober in one's thoughts and feelings. And there are such people who, under the pretext of creating a family, want to take possession of the partner's body before entering marriage and are ready to promise golden mountains and their heart, explaining their attraction by unconditional love that is not able to wait so long and is ready to get ahead of events, just to manifest itself in all its fullness. And "rose-colored glasses" present all this in unnatural colors of long-term perspectives.

Unfortunately, "rose-colored thinking" has become an integral attribute of our time. And Hollywood quite successfully advertises such relationships between people, not initiating naive representatives of humanity into the bitter consequences of such a worldview.

Creating a family is the most responsible enterprise in a person's life. In these relationships he builds not only his own beautiful future, but also the future of his life companion, his offspring, and that environment that will be formed around this union. The choice of a life companion is very important in this construction, and it is desirable to involve specialists in this area in this process so that they soberly evaluate the work being done and make appropriate corrections.

I have been working in the construction field for about 30 years and know what it is. A person who approaches construction for the first time, having only strength and enthusiasm, is a very dangerous worker who cannot be entrusted with responsible tasks, otherwise something irreparable may happen. If a trained employee comes to the firm, having appropriate qualifications and clearance to work, then I understand that his knowledge will help foresee many mistakes and not allow them. And yet, before entrusting anything to an unfamiliar specialist, I first check his knowledge and abilities in a practical approach.

I think that any sphere of human life activity has wise organization, but when building a family this wisdom evaporates somewhere, and we see the result — unhappy families, divorces, and children needed by no one. But all this could have been avoided if we had removed the "rose-colored glasses" in time and assessed the situation soberly. Of course, not everything is the fault of "rose-colored thinking," but this factor should not be excluded from the rules either.

When I did not understand the features of creating a family, then for me any people in love were a symbol of future happiness, because that is what Hollywood says. And my question was: "When is the wedding? Will you invite me?" But life teaches many things and helps to evaluate them objectively and comprehensively.

Of course, there is also another foolishness, when people put on "black glasses" and see in every friend solid shortcomings against the background of their imaginary "holiness." Here it is already difficult to object to something and somehow gain the trust of such a person. But love can work a miracle for such a type of thinking too, if the person understands that without love he is nothing.

Sincere prayer of faith and a request for the Lord to choose and show the right and proper person solve many problems much earlier than they begin. Counsel with the Lord in any relationship will never be superfluous. God shows us those with whom we are dealing, He creates situations where a person's character manifests itself, and I myself open up to a friend and learn more about myself when God is in our relationship.

God's task is not to find two ideal partners for marriage and unite them in a family, but to teach two egoists to love each other, teach them to care for their neighbor and develop in themselves those qualities of soul that will bring blessing to others.

If I see the imperfection of my partner and decide to love him with this feature, then this is not "rose-colored thinking," but my conscious choice, which will give me strength to cover with love what will manifest itself in a foolish light.

But what one should not put up with is the sinful vices of a candidate for family. When the Lord clearly showed that a person has an obsession or addiction to sin and lives according to the flesh, then in this situation it is necessary to be sober in planning future relationships and it is better to stop them immediately, even if this will cause pain. But "rose-colored glasses" enchant, and one does not want to take them off.

1. Please read Prov. 8:5; 19:14; 22:3; 31:30; 1 Cor. 13:7-10; Matt. 10:16; Ps. 119:18; Gen. 3:7; Matt. 20:32-33; John 9:39-41; Prov. 1:7-9,29-33; 2:10-19; 3:5-8 in light of this topic.

2. What did you understand from this topic?

3. What other verses from the Bible came to your mind?

4. What are "rose-colored glasses" in your understanding?

5. Is it always bad to have "rose-colored glasses," or does it sometimes even help or save from something?

6. Why is it necessary when choosing a life companion to see all sides of the relationship and character of your future half?

7. Do you think that "a pig in a poke" with "rose-colored glasses" on are good harbingers of future happiness?

8. Can wisdom oppose itself to "rose-colored thinking"? If yes, in what way?

9. How can I understand that I see the situation in a real light without any "glasses"?

10. Have you encountered people in love who built their relationships in a "rosy light" and on this basis created a family?

11. In what "glasses" was your family created?

12. Do you think that if you ask God for wisdom in understanding and seeing the character of the one with whom you plan to create a family, will He give it?

13. Is God interested in us soberly approaching the choice of a life companion?

14. What to do if "rose-colored glasses" bring me true pleasure in relationships, and without them everything is very gray and boring?

15. What is the difference between love and conscious unwillingness to notice a person's vices?