And Where to Find Someone Like That?

If you ask single young people what kind of husband or wife they would like to have, and ask them to be honest and sincere in such a question, then I think the expectations and statements on this topic will be the same for everyone. And I will voice them.

A young girl will put forward the following requirements. A man should be intelligent, wise, cheerful, kind, responsive, strong, athletic, not selfish, prudent, attentive, tender, honest, principled, caring, cheerful, devoted, faithful, loving, friendly, spiritual, dedicated to God. And it would also be good if he were independent and could cook deliciously. And those who are bolder will add to this list also that he be handsome, tall and rich.

Not bad requirements. Considering that such character qualities are approved by the Word of God, and all Eternity will be populated by such people, it is worth wanting this.

And what should a girl be like?

The list of expected qualities will be approximately similar to the above. And young people who study the Scriptures will name several more virtues corresponding to the biblical portrait of the ideal wife. If you undergo training in the School of Agape Love, then the expectations and requirements for a girlfriend from the Lord will become so high that there is a risk of never meeting such a girl.

However, if young people name qualities that they would like to see in their future spouse, does this mean that they want something unrealistic? Should they expect what their heart thirsts for?

Do such people exist at all? We dream about them. We voice their character qualities. We pray about them, but we cannot see them. Yes, undoubtedly, they are all in Hollywood, and it will provide you with such amazing people that it will even be amazed itself at whom it has in its depths. But one thing is on the screen, and another is in life.

The correct answer for dreamers about such people sounds as follows. There are no such people and cannot be, because everyone has a sinful human nature. And this does not depend on age. But these people can be created and nurtured in your good company through daily dedication of yourself to God.

Let us immediately discard all extremes, vices and sinful addictions that make a person unsuitable for building a happy family, and take a normal young person who, although he has tasted something of life's struggle for survival, is not yet spoiled by this world, and cannot be written off. Somewhere subconsciously he really wants to be a man, make independent decisions and have a woman nearby who will become his helper and inspirer for all the days of their life together. But the truth is that a man is able to become a man only if next to him there is a real woman possessing femininity. In the presence of such a being with pronounced signs of femininity, it is very easy for a man to be masculine, discover his male nature and manifest male character qualities that awakened thanks to the presence of a woman in his life.

In no way do I want to humiliate dear representatives of the fair sex, but now we are talking precisely about that young age in which a good beginning is formed or a stereotypical worldview is laid, which will subsequently guide the processes of all life.

All the desired qualities listed above can be found in people from already established families. Such spouses have passed through the hardships and joys of joint experiences, tragedies and victories, in which those seeking wisdom found it, and those destroying everything with their own hands succeeded in such an approach to life.

When young people only leave their parental home, then although they are big, they are still children who are used to someone caring for them, someone solving various issues, someone doing what they could do themselves. And many expect continuation of such care for themselves from their new friend, and he is the same egoist who is not accustomed to thinking about your happiness, and does not know how to think about his own.

But God's plan is to mold from two inexperienced people something beautiful with which they could live long and happily.

In building family happiness, the most important task and responsibility lies with the woman, who essentially establishes and forms the principles of relationship development. A woman can do something correctly, guided by intuition or examples from life in her parental home, but still she needs to understand that the man who became or will become her husband is not a girlfriend, not a brother and not even a father, but a completely opposite being who thinks completely differently, sees everything differently and has his own understanding of life, happiness and friendship, different from the female. And the task of a wise wife includes the process of studying male psychology, applying the studied rules in her personal life and grandiose work on her own "I," which will constantly interfere in relationships and destroy something in them.

The greatest and most important task ever set for a woman is the formation of her character in the image and likeness of God. God wants to reveal His image to woman, and He also dreams of restoring this image in her. He most of all wants modern women to become women, those people of the female sex who they were originally conceived and born.

A woman is not only a being of the female gender who outwardly resembles a woman, has distinctive physiological features, possesses refined sensitivity and perceptiveness. But this is also spiritual correspondence to the female image that the Lord placed in every woman so that she would be a woman. Femininity is what the world steals from a woman, making her a fighter for justice and equality. Our Soviet society formed a certain stereotype that we are accustomed to seeing and which should suit us. Capitalism and democracy brought their own values into this image. Freedom of thought and religion supplemented this set with its advantages, and Internet culture created a completely new type of person of the female sex, who is now trying to get out of these frameworks and somehow be happy.

And with all this the Lord deals, trying to give everything necessary for changes and spiritual growth.

There is nothing terrible when two egoists noticed each other and decided to create something common and build something beautiful from this. They can learn everything if they take God and His principles of love as the basis of their construction. In essence, love is capable of making a woman feminine, and a man courageous and responsible. But this needs to be learned and learned for a long time, many years and many decades.

When I see a happy family, I understand how much they had to go through together, overcome, experience, endure to become like this. And at the beginning they were no better than our young dreamers. Difficulties tempered this family, problems showed them the best paths, crises opened new opportunities for them, and grief made them closer and dearer. And if in all this they asked for God's wisdom, sought God's counsel, were guided by God's principles, then the result will be visible to all and delight many.

And mutual love makes this experience tasty and perfect.

1. Please read: Gen. 1:27; 2:22; Prov. 19:14; 1 Pet. 3:1-13; 1 Tim. 2:8-15; 4:12-16; Eccl. 4:9-12; 11:9-10; Rom. 13:10; Prov. 14:1; 31:10-31; 1 Cor. 7:27-40; 15:10 in light of this lesson.

2. What other verses from the Bible came to your mind?

3. What did you understand from this topic?

4. Where to find a good person for creating a family?

5. Is it possible with God's help and with the help of God's love to mold from any person something beautiful and tasty?

6. Do you think good people in other people's families were born so good, or did they become such by getting into favorable conditions?

7. Is the potential for changes in character development embedded in a person?

8. What role do you think a woman plays in building family happiness?

9. What is femininity?

10. What do you feel when someone teaches that for a woman to be a woman, she needs to be feminine?

11. What does it mean to be feminine? Have you met such people?

12. Why, if there are no such beautiful people in nature as described at the beginning of the lesson, does everyone dream about them and pray, wanting to get exactly such?

13. Are you yourself still capable of changing for the better? If yes, what is needed for this, or what prevents you?

14. Is love capable of working miracles of transformation in a person's life?

15. What exactly does love change in life?