How to Understand a Woman?

When the question is asked about how to understand a woman, it usually brings a smile to the faces of all present. Someone expects to hear another joke on this topic, someone wants to share their observation, and someone wants to tell another anecdote. Moreover, women themselves sometimes don't mind learning something unusual about themselves. And as has become customary, the same answer is given to this question, which sounds: "No way." And since this is absolutely impossible, it's not worth trying to understand anything.

Jokes aside, but if such questions have firmly entered into common use and are accepted by society as an axiom that doesn't even need to be proven, then a generalization has occurred. All women fall under it regardless of age, intelligence, and social status. Thus, there is social generally accepted discrimination, with which women themselves quite agree. And there are those who go further and single out from the representatives of the weaker sex a special group of the most stupid, blonde women, who are united by white hair color. And the enemy of the soul so skillfully presents woman to the world in a distorted light, doing this with refined sarcasm, that even people who believe in God accept such statements without investigation.

And when it comes to female logic, then this expression causes not only a smile but laughter in many. As a result, all this unfounded sarcasm is by default directed at the Creator of that very woman, and there is unofficial humiliation of the creative abilities of the Heavenly Constructor, Who created an incomprehensible being, which is not only stupid, but also inadequate, which cannot be understood in any way.

Is this really so? Let us consider this question from a Biblical position and understand what and who stands behind this.

God created woman completely opposite to man, so that in such a different way of thinking and feeling she could become his helper in life's field.

And this opposition attracts man to woman, and woman to man, which is the Creator's design, which is very difficult for us to understand completely because of the presence of sin in the world.

Relationships between man and woman in friendly and brotherly communication or in family union carry many positive revelations for both sides, which in the right spirit and purity of thoughts enrich these people and bring abundant blessings.

If we take the process of God's creativity described in the first chapter of Genesis, we can notice that it developed from simpler to more complex, and at the very end God created woman in His image and likeness, in the image of God, placing in her nature His qualities of soul and character, so that in combination with masculine virtues this union would reflect the fullness of Divine beauty and harmony.

Sin interfered with God's design to reveal the special meaning of creating a family union, and we cannot even assume what the family would be like in a sinless world, but I think when sin is completely destroyed, never to appear again, then the Lord will reveal to the entire Universe the true meaning and spirit of family relationships.

Did the Lord create something incomprehensible to man? When I encounter something opposite to my worldview, something that looks completely different, then I naturally want to figure it out and draw something new and useful for myself. Understanding a woman is very simple when you relate to her with love and delve into the meaning of what she says, when you try to adjust to her way of thinking and look at the world from a different angle.

In every woman is laid the desire to be beautiful and attractive, which makes her in demand and desirable in the eyes of man, and this is not a vice or something that should not be.

I think that one of the greatest desires that all the saved will have when they receive new bodies at the Second Coming of Christ will be the desire to see their new appearance in a mirror. From the reaction of our friends we will understand that we have a beautiful appearance that will delight all the dazzlingly beautiful people around us, but most of all we will be interested to see ourselves and carefully, in detail, examine our new features of incorruptible nature, which will be ours forever. Therefore, when now a woman tidies herself up, looking in the mirror, this should not be considered something bad. She is made this way, and this cannot be taken away from her.

A woman is very easy to understand when you have friendly communication with her and listen to her attentively, not trying to bite or humiliate her. She, seeing in you her friend and brother, begins to open up more and more and explain how she sees and understands something. Love in relationships brings unity of thoughts and harmony of feelings, which makes any communication desirable and pleasant.

The fact that we differ from each other in many respects makes our conversations interesting, educational, and delicious. No one can elevate a man and raise his social status in his eyes like a woman who loves him, who sincerely admires his masculine qualities and is not ashamed to talk about it. A woman's strength is manifested in her weakness, just as a Christian's strength is in his complete dependence on God and in recognizing his powerlessness before His power.

Worldly society has gone further, inventing offensive names for those who understand their wife, respect and love her, serve her and take her wishes into account. These people are ridiculed and humiliated in every way. But don't let this confuse or disappoint you. Loving your wife is a Heavenly norm of life and a natural feat in a normal family. Loving your sister in faith is fulfilling God's commandment. Loving a woman is an opportunity to reveal to her the love of our Creator and clearly show her that she is a very valuable friend, who is no worse than you, and whom you understand perfectly.

If it is difficult for me to understand a woman in some matters, then there is the Holy Spirit, Who is able to reveal to me much more than eyes see and ears hear. The Lord is interested in us understanding each other, discovering something new in this for ourselves and seeking such communication.

If worldly stereotypes about woman are very firmly established in my consciousness, then the Lord is able to destroy them and put His love in my heart, which sees everything differently, understands everything and everyone and humiliates no one.

If someone cannot understand a woman and declares this with sarcasm, this speaks of his stupidity, incompetence, and pride. And God resists the proud.

One can not understand someone if they speak in a different language or are deprived of reason, but our society consists, as a rule, of adequate people who can express their thoughts and feelings aloud very logically and thoroughly. And if something in the behavior or words of your dear and close women is unclear to you, then start praying about this and learning to understand them, and you will definitely succeed.

Hardly anyone would humiliate their mother with such questions, yet she is also a woman who gave you life and always cared for you. A woman can always be understood and one should strive for this, because God created her for man, so that it would be interesting for him to live with her, be friends, communicate, and marvel at the vastness of her mind.

1. Please read Gen. 2:22-24; 1Sam. 25:3,23-35; Acts 1:14; 16:14-15; 21:5; 1Cor. 7:3-4,16; 11:7-9; Ps. 127:1-3; Prov. 11:16; 19:14; 31:10; Mal. 2:13-14; Matt. 27:17-20; Luke 8:1-3; John 20:11-18; 1Tim. 2:8-15 in light of this lesson.

2. What other Biblical women came to your mind?

3. What did you understand from this topic?

4. Who wants to humiliate God's creation-woman and discredit her?

5. Did David understand Abigail when she came to him to ask mercy for her husband? 1Sam. 25.

6. Do you understand the works of the Spirit of Prophecy? Are you not confused that they were written by a woman?

7. Are there women in your environment whom you respect and understand, and listen to?

8. How do you understand the expression "love understands everything" in light of our lesson?

9. Will a loving heart humiliate someone or not take them seriously?

10. What should a woman do who has no authority with her husband and cannot influence him in any way?

11. Does the Lord watch how His sons treat their wives and women in general?

12. Should the advice from 1Tim 2:12: "But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet" be understood literally and not communicate with the husband and not open one's mouth in church?

13. Did this lesson help to understand and see something important?

14. Does the Lord call us to understand each other?

15. If in some cases you cannot understand a woman, is it worth generalizing this misunderstanding and applying it to all women and cases?