How to Understand a Man?

For some reason it is commonly believed that a woman is the most mysterious being, which is very difficult to understand. But it turned out that this is not so at all, if you approach this question very seriously. A woman can and should be understood. But how can a woman understand a man who thinks differently, is arranged completely differently, doesn't react to emotional fluctuations, and sometimes behaves very strangely contrary to all expectations?

The main thing that women need to understand is that a man is not a girlfriend who has similar experiences and hormonal disorders and immediately understands what is being discussed, knowing the essence of the problem from within. Men are far from such physiological and emotional changes and perceive reality more soberly and calmly. If he is informed about how the female organism and her thinking are arranged, then he can understand her desires and expectations, but if he is ignorant in this matter, then one shouldn't expect sympathy or support from him. A man simply won't understand your foreign language of feelings and will consider any claims against himself unfair and unfounded.

A man and his character is that area of natural sciences that every woman needs to discover, study, and navigate for herself, like a fish in water. Currently there are many studies and new data in this area that the internet offers, but when turning to such sources of information, it's worth remembering that people not born again may present you with one-sided information about the carnal inclinations of the stronger half of humanity and try to describe its characteristics apart from God.

It's worth noting that a believing man differs in many parameters from one who doesn't have personal relationships with Christ, and therefore is arranged completely differently and thinks differently.

What wounds a woman's soul may be an ordinary scratch for her husband, which he won't even pay attention to. He is simply arranged this way and doesn't experience everything as deeply as his wife.

If this man is your husband, with whom you have lived for a long time and have common children, this doesn't mean that you completely understand him and have studied him so thoroughly that there's nothing left to discover. Just as it's impossible to say that you know everything about the World Ocean if you live on its shore but have never explored its depths, so it can be said about a man who is familiar to you as a family member but has never let you into his hidden depths.

When I decide to study Chinese, then in the textbook I see nothing but hieroglyphs and understand nothing. But over time I begin to delve into the meaning and significance of each stroke and discover an amazing world of new culture. And the more understandable this language becomes to me, the more interesting it is to learn everything that was previously inaccessible.

Knowing your husband happens only when he loves you, accepts your respect and reverence for himself, receives from you everything necessary that his body and soul need, and sees your genuine interest in him as an amazing person whom you wish to study, understand, research, in order to admire him even more and gladden his heart.

Men are not such closed personalities and impregnable bastions as it may seem with constant contact with them. But the windows of the soul can be tightly closed from one careless word or wrong intonation in the voice. And nothing can open them except your sincere love and constant respect addressed to him.

Don't think that all men know themselves and understand how they are arranged. They too are ignorant in this matter and sometimes spend their whole lives on autopilot of the settings placed in them by the Creator, never understanding how everything happens. This is like when I get behind the wheel of a car and know how to use everything in the cabin, but have no idea what happens under the hood. And the car goes, listening to the commands of my legs and hands, even if I don't understand how the internal combustion engine works and what it's needed for.

A wife is given to a husband to help him discover himself, his inner world, his abilities, and direct all these discoveries for the common good for building a happy family.

Ignorance in knowing oneself and one's family partner is inherent in both sides, and therefore instead of blaming each other and humiliating for significant differences in views and reactions to one or another question, it's worth thinking about how well I know myself and how my life friend is arranged.

If spouses have mutual interest in studying each other and discovering themselves in all the depths of their nature, then endless perspectives in this knowledge open before them. They will be as limitless as you allow them to develop.

God placed Eternity in our relationships with Him, during which we will constantly discover something new, great, and inaccessible in God's character that we didn't know before. And these discoveries will never end.

Also in knowing each other, husband and wife have no limit after which they cannot discover anything more in each other. I know such families in which people lived their whole lives, have grandchildren, but don't know each other and are surprised at how strange and incomprehensible this spouse is, not even trying to understand why they are like this.

It should be taken into account that sin in relationships blocks the heart and mind in you and your partner and presents a person's character in a distorted form, and in such a state it's difficult to discover anything, except perhaps another vice, which doesn't bring joy.

Love from God destroys all barriers, opens closed doors, fills life with light, and brings beautiful things into family relationships that gladden both spouses. Love teaches to build everything correctly, respect another's opinion, understand their desires and feelings, take into account circumstances and facts of life, and share oneself in different situations.

When love is mutual and there are no boundaries for entering a man's heart, then it's up to you to decide what to do with this. Love doesn't force you to study someone and understand them. It quietly waits for your interest and your activity.

If you don't understand your husband, then you shouldn't blame him for this; maybe you yourself don't want this or don't know how to do it. It's not always easy to start what you've never done before. And approaches to your husband's heart may be like barricades that he created to protect himself from your attacks. But love will destroy all this. It's never too late to apologize for past mistakes and offer something new and good in future perspective. A husband is not a stranger, and it will be easier for him to restructure under your research and learn together with you to discover something amazing in himself, worthy of admiration and compliment.

Love teaches to respect your husband and in this respect gives him everything necessary for the soul. Discovering the new world of your man for yourself, you will understand that he is created for respect and cannot be a man without this, and if he doesn't receive this at home, he finds such treatment in another place.

Studying the arrangement of her husband, a wise wife will understand that all men are similar to each other in soul, and will treat them with respect, understanding their needs, considering them unique as well.

1. Please read 1Cor. 7:12-17; Rom. 12:9-21; 1Pet. 1:22; 2:17; Prov. 2:10-15; 11:16; 14:1; 31:26-31; Ps. 127:1-6; Eccl. 4:9-12 in light of this lesson.

2. What other verses from the Bible came to your mind?

3. What did you understand from this topic?

4. Is it necessary to understand a man?

5. Can there be problems in the family due to not understanding each other?

6. What will give a wife knowledge about who her husband is according to God's design?

7. What happens when a wife judges her husband by herself?

8. Will it be humiliating for a woman if she decides to make her husband her king?

9. Should a man fight for his right to be the head of the family if the wife doesn't think so?

10. Do you think you will learn something more about your husband if you begin to study him?

11. Should one take into account the husband's temperament and not expect changes from him in this regard?

12. If your acquaintance's husband is better than yours, should you inform your spouse about this?

13. Do men know themselves and how they are arranged, and what their difference from women is? Do they all possess such insight?

14. Are you inclined to study people of the male gender in order to better understand them?

15. Do you think men will treat with respect those women who understand them?