Respect for Husband

In the world there are many people who are customarily respected and to whom reverence is shown. These may be famous or wealthy personalities. People who have power over you, such as a boss or president, those who are much older than you or stronger. Sometimes a person is forced to respect such people because it's accepted in society and is considered a norm of life.

Respect is conscious recognition of the value and dignity of another person, their rights and feelings, their religious and moral freedom. This is a manifestation of care and courtesy toward personality. This is physical and psychological inviolability, attentive attitude toward the rights and needs of another, honoring them as higher than oneself. Respect is manifested in accepting opinion and choice of life path, in attentive attitude, in the desire to be useful and timely in providing help, in selfless service.

Respect for another person is not considered something humiliating, because it is in Heaven's eyes a mandatory part of God's design even among holy beings. It also implies a person's awareness of their own value and dignity, which God's son or daughter possesses.

Love is a manifestation of respect for every person regardless of how much higher or lower they are than you in social status.

Respect for husband is conscious understanding of this natural need of every man that is not a wife's obligation, which is an extremely important aspect of his vital activity for him. A husband needs this like regular nutrition, like water and light.

There was a time when I still couldn't do anything in my professional activity and didn't know the language of the country I moved to live in, but very much wanted to be a builder and work in this sphere. And I decided that the most suitable place for me was to be a builder's assistant, which happened as a gift from the Lord. This was a woe-assistant who taught his boss patience, endurance, and the search for understandable expressions so that work would go without mistakes and delays. It was very difficult for me to help do the right things without knowing the laws of construction, but I learned and studied this science day by day, year by year. Soon I became a mason, then a foreman, and after some time opened my own company, and now I myself bear full responsibility for the execution of work. And it is precisely now that I understand that having all this experience and knowledge of construction laws, I can be a very professional assistant, foresee mistakes and understand in advance what needs to be done, from which side to approach solving different tasks.

God gave woman to man as a helper, placing in her the potential of creative and intellectual abilities that are not characteristic of man but are available in great assortment in every woman. This potential doesn't reveal itself and become in demand immediately, but day by day, year by year, a wife learns life wisdom and acquires necessary skills and knowledge in building a happy family. And, being in fact of creation and God's design a more perfect and developed personality, she is capable of very professionally fulfilling the role of helper, while respecting the one to whom she was given by God.

A husband, being according to Heaven's design the boss of his family, teaches his protégé many family types of improvements, personally participating in this and respecting the one who was given to him by God.

Respect is not some complex action to which one needs to force oneself with all remaining strength. This is a natural desire to honor the one who lives with you under one roof.

A man feels very well how much he is respected and how this is manifested. He sees everything in this attitude. And you can't deceive him by presenting a fake. Having complete intimacy with his wife, he feels every movement of her mood and how sincere she is toward him. And when respect flows from a pure heart naturally, then the man gladly accepts this as due, although he may not show that this is pleasant to him, and is not obliged to do so.

When everything in the family is in its place, and everyone fulfills the role that the Creator of the family intended, then relationships will develop harmoniously and correctly.

If a husband decided to change his religious views and stopped adhering to God's commandments, this doesn't give the wife the right to stop showing respect to him. On the contrary, in her love and care for him she can show her husband God's love and help him return to the true path, if nothing threatens her life.

The gift of respect and understanding of how it should manifest itself is given by God and is written in the heart. God did not assign the wife to rule over her husband and does not approve of such a spirit. Any anger, shouting, grumbling, offense, evil speaking, dissatisfaction toward the head of the family the Lord regards as disrespect toward Himself.

It is not the husband who creates authority for himself as head of the wife, but this responsibility is entrusted to the wife. And with her respect for her man she very successfully fulfills God's purpose and makes her husband spiritually satisfied, worthy, and significant in the eyes of other household members and her friends.

For some men it's enough that they not be hindered in implementing all their plans and always be nearby. He is satisfied when his opinion is listened to without unnecessary comments. Another expects admiration and praise addressed to him, to understand that he has an excellent support group that is generous with kind words of approval and will always find in him something to rejoice about. When respecting a husband, it's important to understand his love language and express your attitude precisely in this language. But it's worth remembering that an extra kind word addressed to the husband, said in the right place and at the right time, won't be excessive.

If a man doesn't receive worthy respect in his home, he won't die from such treatment, but will automatically seek it in another place, spending his time outside the home or outside the family. And he will definitely find those who will respect and value him or at least create such an appearance.

Love consists of respect, and this can be understood by seeing how much God respects His creation and human choice, even if it goes against God's plans.

Respect for husband is like good seed that, having sprouted, will bring good fruit in relationships. And this fruit will nourish not only your man, but yourselves as well.

For a husband not to perish from hunger, it will be enough to boil potatoes in their skins and make scrambled eggs. He will eat this and receive reinforcement of strength, but will not gain that pleasure that his soul needs. Also in showing respect, if unconditional love is present and the desire to make the husband happy and if his mind is not damaged, your attitude and all your deeds will be very tasty, desirable, and in demand in his eyes.

In respect for her husband, a wife learns submission to God's will, preparing to manifest a similar spirit in dealing with other men. And they will see and feel this and begin to respond in kind, as they receive what they always need.

It's worth always remembering this natural need of male consciousness and not being afraid to give the husband what he so needs.

A wife has a need to be loved, and she may decide that her husband needs this too, but he needs respect more, and this is worth remembering.

1. Please read Rom. 12:9-10; Lev. 19:32; 1Pet. 1:22; 2:17; Phil. 2:1-5; 2:25-30; James 2:1-4; Ps. 2:12; John 12:26; 1Cor. 15:16; 1Sam. 9:6; 15:30; 2Kings 5:1; Eccl. 10:1; Ezek. 22:7-8; Acts 5:34; 1Thess. 5:11-13 in light of this lesson.

2. What other verses from the Bible came to your mind?

3. What did you understand from this topic?

4. How can one respect a husband so that it would be pleasant to Heaven?

5. Should one ask the husband himself what kind of respect he likes?

6. Does the verse from Matt. 7:6 relate to our topic: "Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces"?

7. What should respect not be, or what you consider respect? For example: fears - means respects.

8. What role does love play in respect for husband?

9. Should one take into account the difference in thinking and perception between man and woman when choosing your approach to husband's heart?

10. If your husband is younger than you or doesn't have the life experience that you possess, should you first educate him under yourself, and then begin to respect him?

11. For what should men be respected, and for what should they not be?

12. Will God give wisdom to a wife to relate correctly to her husband if she wants to honor him with her unfeigned respect but doesn't know how to do this?

13. Should one remember that respect is very important and necessary for a husband?

14. Should one teach one's children to honor their father, and how is it better to do this?

15. Did you learn something useful and new for yourself from this lesson?