Praise Your Husband

Praise is the emphasis of hidden or visible virtues of a person, which in a special way gladdens and inspires both the listener and the speaker of such compliments.

If there is a man in your home with whom you have linked your life forever, then it's worth knowing that words of your praise and gratitude are as necessary for him as intimate closeness with you and your tasty and healthy food.

Many women don't know this, and almost all don't practice it. A husband won't die of hunger if you don't praise him, but this mechanism and this need is laid in him because he is the image and likeness of God. He is a creative personality, and he needs to fly. Praise precisely contributes to the successful growth of so-called "creative wings," thanks to which your husband can accomplish such amazing things that he might never decide to do because of your silence.

If you want your husband to start doing what he has never done before, then begin praising him as you have never praised him before.

Don't confuse praise with flattery or express it for the sake of a checkmark or desire to get something in return. Men understand your motives very well and don't accept counterfeits. If a wife has nothing to say, then it's better to say nothing and start studying this question and applying such a language of love by fact and necessity.

Understanding how important praise is to a husband, don't unleash a waterfall of kind words on him if he's not used to receiving such from you. If you are in constant confrontation or irritation, then your praise won't be accepted. It will be understood with precision in reverse.

If your husband is irritated or upset by your words of praise and gratitude, then don't say them to him. This means that your spouse is an exception to the rules, to whom a special approach needs to be found. Mainly though, your sincere praise will be accepted with joy and pleasure.

Don't start doing what you won't continue. Understanding and seeing that your husband needs your positive assessment of his hidden and open characteristics, he should be fed this constantly. And the suggestion that he find something himself and eat last year's canned goods of good memories won't work. Your spouse requires "fresh products" and "hot pies," especially if he willingly shares his new achievements, experiences, and victories with you.

If he doesn't get at home what his soul so needs, then he will seek this recognition in another place, and will definitely find it.

Praise brings blessing not only to the one who hears it, but also to the one who expresses it.

Why do we praise God? Why does the Bible write so much about this? Because it builds good relationships between me and the Creator. It teaches me to notice the invisible and be grateful for what is received, lifts mood, emphasizes the Lord's value in my eyes, fills my heart with joy, is an expression of my faith, and is very pleasing to the Deity who listens to me.

Now take all these advantages of praise and apply them to the one who is created in the image and likeness of God. This need to receive and give is placed in every normal person.

Praising your husband is a whole science that should be studied and made part of your life. It is a key to mutual understanding, to reducing tension in relationships, to establishing positive communication, to building trust and creating a strong emotional connection.

Praise should be spoken to the point and fact. With its help they find and emphasize what is obvious, or express what you wish to see in a person, looking at him with eyes of faith.

A man is pleased when you notice in him the manifestation of masculine qualities, such as strength, courage, endurance, steadfastness, faithfulness, wisdom. If you start emphasizing his external beauty, he may not understand you.

Don't humiliate your husband by praising him like a small child. For example, smarty, good boy, clever boy. This can only be said in expressing your feelings in special cases so that no one else hears. You are not his mother, and don't need to thus adopt the head of your family.

Standard phrases, for example, "well done," "good," "let me kiss you," are not praise, but carry news that this is a deserved compliment. They don't cause special joy. Words of love are also not praise, but an expression of your feelings and attitude, which doesn't emphasize the virtues and characteristics of the man, but gladden his heart.

When you see or feel that your husband is asking for praise, then give him this in abundance. He will gladly eat everything you treat him with and will be very grateful to you for such a tasty gift for the soul. A man needs to understand his significance and uniqueness, and who, if not his wife, can contribute to this.

Praise can become a very powerful motivator in your husband's creative life and spur him to discover and develop those talents and abilities that in other cases won't be in demand. Try to "attach" wings to your husband and teach him to fly, try new things, invent unique things, and support him with your sincere joy for his successes in this creative area of his life. Remember that behind every successful man stands a wise wife, thanks to whose support he was able to conquer another peak and improve this world.

Praise is also appropriate in the intimate sphere of family life. And here too wisdom from above is necessary to find the right words and emphasize what especially gladdens you. But do this so that no one else hears your revelations.

You shouldn't praise a person for his laziness, lack of initiative, or indifference to you. You shouldn't encourage evil vices either, praising how well he scolded someone or put them in their place. It's better to say nothing.

In any man is laid the need to be needed and useful, in demand and valuable, and when you emphasize this with your sincere praise, your husband hears you, agrees with your words, and becomes attached to you with all his heart.

Don't be afraid to praise your spouse in front of other people, without humiliating his masculine dignity and without revealing your personal family secrets. You shouldn't call your beloved by diminutive-affectionate words in front of strangers, such as "bunny," "kitty," or "fish." Let all these names be only in your personal use.

If your husband is open to praise and expects this from you, then talk with him about this and ask what gladdens him most, what he counts on, and what he feels. It happens that in your eyes something is praise, but for your husband it's humiliation, or vice versa. In communication with a friend dear to you, you can learn many useful things.

Love for your husband will necessarily express itself in defining those properties of his character, behavior, and hidden potential that he perhaps hasn't even thought about.

We all expect praise from God when He says to us: "Well done, good and faithful servant, ...enter into the joy of your master" (Matt. 25:21). But we will hear these words at the very end as a result, and already now we can gladden each other's hearts and voice the good that we notice in each other or that we want to see.

1. Please read Phil. 4:8; Prov. 27:2; Ps. 19:8; 33:3; 116:1-2; 2Sam. 14:25; 1Pet. 2:20; Rom. 2:29; 2Cor. 1:12-14; 6:3-10; 7:14-16; 10:18; 11:10-12; Phil. 1:25-28; James 3:14; Jer. 9:23-24 in light of this lesson.

2. What other verses from the Bible came to your mind?

3. What did you understand from this topic?

4. Do you like to hear praise addressed to you?

5. Do you think others like to hear what you like too?

6. What does praise produce in the heart and in relationships?

7. How does praise differ from flattery?

8. Did you know that praise is needed by men, although they themselves say little about this?

9. What to do if you're not used to praising anyone, and you're not drawn to this?

10. Do you think your praise will be a stimulus for your husband to become who you see him as, and do you believe that he can achieve this?

11. What is not praise?

12. How does praise "for something" differ from praise "because"?

13. Are you interested to see the influence of words of praise on your life friend? Are you planning to practice this?

14. Do you think those whom you begin to praise and in whom you will make unique discoveries will stop respecting you?

15. Where and how can one learn to praise other people?